Our freshman year passed by, and so did many upperclassmen bachelors. I made every attempt to sit next to guys in the cafeteria, but none were interested in me.
Sophomore year seemed to bring renewed promise of a future mate, as one of the guys professed his interest in me. Although I was not at all attracted to him and barely knew him, I thought maybe God knew better and so agreed to start a relationship. What resulted was a very miserable me and a very messy break-up.
Junior year I had a couple of sweet guy friends whom I was secretly madly in love with...or so I thought. I asked to go everywhere with them and do things for them and with them, but again, neither showed even the faintest interest in me...sigh!
|Invest in friendships...|
Senior year came and with it a little more wisdom. I branched out and spent more time with other female students. I made guy friends for the sheer joy of friendship and not to interview for marriage. And no I never did find my husband in college, but now I'm very glad I didn't!
I wish someone had told me sooner not to waste so much time and energy seeking out "the one". I wish I had let go of all my expectations for a relationship, and had more fun with the girls. I wish I hadn't turned away so many potential guy friends simply because they didn't meet my expectations of a future spouse.
So I'm telling each of you now, if you're still single or single again: embrace the sweetness that is the single life. Go out, have fun, travel, date or don't date, but take the pressure off yourself and those around you. Then when you do meet Mr. Right, you'll have lots of stories to share with him!
|make some memories!|